Let's just get one thing straight. I have never, in my life, been called "promiscuous" or "slut" or "ho". Maybe that's because I just don't talk about sex. Maybe if I actually talked about it, people would look down on me and think of me as girl with questionable morals.
Now, why on earth would I be scared of being called a slut for just talking about sex? Because it seems like whenever a girl voices her opinion on sexuality, or even hints at her own sexuality, everyone gets all up in arms and thinks she must be a whore. If a girl is sexually comfortable, she must be loose.
Let's take Lil' Kim and Trina for example. They don't just rap about sex, they rap about feeling sexual powerful over men, and that concept is shocking to a lot of people. Why is it so shocking? In a way, I think the message of female sexuality is extremely empowering, and women haven't fully embraced our power yet. Yeah, women burned their bras in the 60's, we have the pill, but it's still some dirty little secret that we have our sexuality, or that we just plain love havin' sex.
That said, I just plain love havin' sex. You heard me right. Does that make me a slut? Absolutely not. Does that make me a bad person? No. But I bet you are SHOCKED to read it, right? You are shocked that some little white girl actually wrote that in her blog for school. You're shocked because the only place you thought you'd hear a girl saying that was in the rap videos. Well, this isn't a rap video, and I'm not Trina, but I can relate to what she's doing because she's just trying to show that women can be sexually powerful too, and that it's a good thing, not something to be ashamed of. We’ve come too far as women to be ashamed of who we are or what we have.
I think that if you respect yourself, respect your body, and RESPECT the power that sexuality can give you, NO ONE should be able to call you a slut.
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Why should I be shocked? In fact, it is appreciated that my students feel safe to blog honestly. There is plenty on why the schism remains between the genders and power is high on the list. Happy Holidays.
I am also not shocked. Sex is fun (among other things). You should read my blog on women in hip-hop.
-T
Oh my gosh. Sorry to start off so surprisingly...BUT wow!
When I read your entire blog I loved it...then I got to the part where you said "you love havin' sex". Now, not saying that I don't or anything...but I can't believe M-money and Tony both said they weren't shocked to hear you say that.
I don't care if you are some innocent girl in the back row...or an outspoken, outgoing, and fun individual...I still would have been shocked to hear that phrase come out of anyone during a school blog.
I'm not saying I disagree or that it's wrong in any way. I was just completely shocked to read it!! That was definitely NOT what I was expecting your next sentence to say!
I guess I was shocked b/c you don't hear that everyday. I know you hear it in music, but that's different to me,I guess.
All in All though...I loved your blog..and your thoughts!
I even loved your "sentence"! I know I wouldn't have been that brave.
Congrats on a phenomenal blog!
Major props to you...CHICA!
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